If you have children, keep in mind that they might not be ready for you to date.
With adult children, remind them that it’s your decision and that you will take appropriate safety considerations.
Practice new dating social skills like flirting by emailing new prospects until you're comfortable, suggests clinical psychologist Judith Sills in a 2009 “Time” magazine article.
I think from all I have read that after the death of a spouse it is wise to wait for at least a year to make any decisions.
You are really vulnerable right after losing your mate and your decisions are naturally a little shaky to say the least.
Your spouse's death doesn’t diminish your love and it can continue to grow as the negative aspects of your relationship fade from memory, writes author and philosopher Aaron Ben-Zeév in a Psychology Today article.
It's not unusual to experience guilt for wanting a new love or be concerned because a new relationship doesn’t feel like your previous one.
It’s possible to love both your former spouse and a new love without doing a disservice to either one.
Realize that a new relationship can bring new life and joy to your heart.
Determine what you need and want now, such as a companion to attend events, a sex partner or a new spouse.
However, keep an open mind and heart and realize that your needs can change again as you continue to date.
Kathryn Rateliff Barr has taught birth, parenting, vaccinations and alternative medicine classes since 1994.
She is a pastoral family counselor and has parented birth, step, adopted and foster children.
If you have minor children, let your dates know that you don’t have an ex to help out with the kids and you must make your kids your priority.