But I think that question (and much of that post actually) is very relevant to dating. People are looking for certain things in life; and when looking for someone to share parts of their life with they have to be approaching it in a way that works for them.
I commonly talk about how one of the struggles in relationships is finding the balance between “me” and “we”.
Maybe they’re looking for someone to just do different things with. Maybe they’re using dating as a way to forget – to try and get over someone.
That doesn’t mean you are committed, and it doesn’t mean it will ever develop into anything more.
It DOES however mean you are willing to give it a chance and see where it goes.
Dating (at least initially) is almost purely about “me”, and I’ve always thought the transition from dating to relationship starts to happen when the nature of the relationship starts to include “we”.
And I guess this is an area where I realize I had no clue (you know nothing Drew, you know nothing).
So let’s rephrase the question as, when does dating go from a casual relationship to a more serious one?
I still think this is something that , and often it will happen for one person before it happens for the other.
I was out with a buddy recently and we got onto the topic of dating.
I’ve been thinking and writing about relationships for a number of years now, but my thoughts have always come from the perspective of someone who was in a long term relationship.
When you starting thinking of the other person as part of an “us” – even if it’s just a potential “us”.