Being Open-Minded and Considerate Respecting Their Privacy Community Q&A Getting to know your date can sometimes involve wondering about many things, including their gender identity.
This can be a difficult topic to bring up, but being sensitive to their concerns will make things better for everyone in the long run.
To learn more about how to be an ally to transgender people, check out GLAAD's Tips for Allies of Transgender People.
We use the acronym LGBTQ to describe the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer community. Sexual orientation describes a person's enduring physical, romantic, and/or emotional attraction to another person (for example: straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual), while gender identity describes a person's, internal, personal sense of being a man or a woman, or someone outside of the gender binary.
Simply put: sexual orientation is about who you are attracted to and fall in love with; gender identity is about who you are.
If you must ask which pronoun the person uses, start with your own.
For example, "Hi, I'm Alex and I use the pronouns he and him. " Then use that person's pronoun and encourage others to do the same.
Transgender is an adjective and should never be used as a noun.
For example, rather than saying "Max is a transgender," say "Max is a transgender person" or "Max is a transgender man." And transgender never needs an "-ed" at the end.If you happen to know a transgender person's birth name (the name given to them when they were born, but which they no longer use), don't share it without that person's explicit permission.Sharing a transgender person's birth name and/or photos of a transgender person before their transition is an invasion of privacy, unless they have given you permission to do so.Gender identity is a person's internal, personal sense of being a man or a woman (or boy or girl.) For some people, their gender identity does not fit neatly into those two choices.For transgender people, the sex they were assigned at birth and their own internal gender identity do not match.For some transgender people, being associated with their birth name is a tremendous source of anxiety, or it is simply a part of their life they wish to leave behind.