Above all, keep the tone light and maintain open lines of communication.
"Explain what kind of relationship you want and why, defining what commitment means for you without giving an ultimatum." If he isn't open to a discussion, let him mull it over for a couple weeks.
But if he still doesn't respond when you bring it up again, it may be time to rethink the relationship.
If it's been about six months and he hasn't dropped one hint about where he sees this going, casually speak up, says Jennifer Kelman, a licensed social worker and relationship expert at
For example, if you'd like him to meet your parents, ask if he'd be up for going out to dinner with them, but let him know there's no harm if he's not quite ready for that yet.
"If you're always waiting around, he won't feel the need to try that hard."Build some intrigue into your schedule that keeps him wanting more.
Wait a few minutes to text back, or if he asks if you're free Tuesday, say that you have other plans but you'd love to meet up on Wednesday.Check out a craft beer festival, see a local band at some hole-in-the-wall, or challenge him to a mountain bike race.A new adventure can fortify your relationship since it gives you shared memories to reminiscence about later, and that stronger bond will increase the likelihood he'll want to keep seeing you, exclusively.You think you desire something serious with this particular guy—but before you do anything else, be sure. Bottom line: Be in a relationship where you feel good when you're without him, but you feel even better with him. 1 piece of advice is to never to bring up the "What are we? "It's like going to a party, turning off the music, turning on the lights, and asking, 'Are we all having a good time here? "A good relationship is built on momentum, and putting a stop to the fun to 'check in' is a surefire way to kill the romance."Let things progress naturally and look at the evidence: Does he try to see you whenever he's free?Step back and ask yourself the following questions, Trespicio suggests: Do I have fun with him? Does he seem genuinely interested in what you have to say? These are likely signs he's in it for real, so enjoy being with him and relax about making things "official." "Men who are wary of commitment want to feel like You don't have to stay in the dark forever, though.There's a fine line between playing a little hard to get and acting totally indifferent.