The process begins by providing lots of space for the full expression of information and asking follow-up questions to further draw out the one talking.
They scan the room, menu, and table setting, only occasionally making eye contact. The key to having a positive experience is relaxed conversation, and that can be helped along with some well-chosen first-date questions.
Biggest clue of all: The salad course is punctuated by strained silence and forced small talk. Before we get to those, let’s review a few general guidelines for dating discourse: Listen as much or more than you talk.
Should the relationship evolve, there will be plenty of time to get into weighty topics. When a person reveals too much too soon, it can give a false sense of intimacy.
In reality, premature or exaggerated revelations are due more to boundary issues, unresolved pain, or self-centeredness than true intimacy. Maybe your first date questions will lead you to discover that this person is your soul mate—or maybe not.
Bringing back memories can tell you a lot about your partner, what kind of things he finds fun or funny, and maybe even what he likes doing.
Even if it’s your first date, don’t hesitate to ask him this. You want to know how he sees life and if there is something specific, he wants to achieve. Maybe he wants to run away from reality and live in an isolated island or a farm far away from civilization.
Everyone today thinks this is a bad question to ask, because you seem more eager, but that’s not true.
You need to know if you and your man are on the same page.
Either way, it’s exciting to be able to get to know another human being and get a peek into his or her world.
Great communication starts with being genuinely interested in the individual you’re with and paying close attention to what he/she says.
There are not many guys out there who are bookworms, and if there are you need to find that out immediately.