The number of female contacts they have in their cellphones seems to be far more important to them and their egos, than that one special woman with whom he could create a lasting, committed relationship.And although they certainly want the physical sex, they do not want the emotional and vulnerability components that are required for a true relationship.
Women and many men have been very hurt, with egos bruised, from their prior relationships.
I feel that what holds them back and is hurting both them and the dating process, is that men do not do their inner work to heal and move forward in positive, healthy ways.
Dating process is very time consuming, almost as a hobby or a job.
It is hard, because involves a lot of rejection and also inflicting hurt on others, not intentionally, but as part of the process.
But, if you want to find lasting love and you’re over 40, online dating is still your best option.
You’re not socializing with singles on a regular basis. You don’t get set up often, and when you do, it’s usually just because the main thing you have in common is you’re both single.
I dislike the starts and stops, learning about someone new, only to have it crumble because one of you chooses to discontinue.
It’s as hard to be the rejecter just as much as it is to be rejected.
So they are just staying online hiding behind the keyboard and will fail to move to a real world.