She's the author of 2016’s 'Living the Life Unexpected: 12 Weeks to Your Plan B for a Meaningful and Fulfilling Future Without Children' (Bluebird/Pan Macmillan).
Gateway Women hosts online communities, workshops, retreats, courses, social events and private sessions for childless-not-by-choice women.
It’s called ‘social infertility’ and it’s affecting a huge number of women in their 30s and 40s in the UK.
1 in 5 women in the UK born in the 1960s has turned 45 without having had a child – some by choice but many by circumstance, this is double what it was a generation ago.
The ticking clock of babymania feels more like a bomb when you’re living through it as a Double Whammy.
You’ve heard every piece of advice, countless times.
Single-motherhood, unless you’re very well set up with a home, an income and solid support from friends and family can be one-way ticket to depression, isolation and poverty.
And without those things in place, you’re also ineligible to adopt or foster, although that doesn’t stop everyone suggesting it, like it’s never occurred to us!
I realised how babymania had been what sustained me through the endless hope/despair cycle of internet dating and once that was gone, so was my appetite for internet dating.
I dipped my toe back in the water early this year for a few months but I was relieved when my ‘three month trial’ was up.
The great thing about being out the other side of my grief and rocking my Plan B is that there’s no hurry anymore.
Because even if I remain single till the day I die, life looks wonderfully rich and full from here. If I had known that it were possible to feel like this, that becoming a mother were something that I could get through and recover from, it would have made a huge difference.
I know some of these ‘spinsters’ personally and have met many others through Gateway Women, and a wonderfully kind, funny, attractive and diverse bunch they are.