While I still believe what I wrote there, I’m finding that many of the women who are contacting me are not at the point where they are sure if the man is their “boyfriend” or not.
With that in mind I wanted to review one of the recent emails I’ve received from a reader and offer some additional advice for this problem.
You’ve decided to try online dating and found yourself talking to a man that seems promising.
You decided to meet and on your first date things go great.
What You Do The one thing you shouldn’t do is verbally attack the guy or start throwing out ultimatums.
If he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off.
In some cases, this could cause what he saw as a healthy, budding relationship to end abruptly.
I’ve had several readers write me they argued with the man they were dating to ask if I thought they had made the right choice.
As I discussed above, I would recommend against being aggressive or angry.
Still, these are areas you will need him to define.
First off let me say that many men keep their profiles active even though they are interested in the woman they are regularly dating.
Men are slower to commit and many also need their ego “stroked”.
When my profile was still up I did message him while he was online and made a little joke about him being there one day and his response was that when people make the effort they at least deserve a polite ‘no thank you’…but that’s been a month ago.