Wise Miller investigated, and found that the man was nervous about prying or offending.
She gently suggested that he could pose weightier questions, and the dating continued.
The database gives the matchmaker access to potentially thousands more singles than he or she could otherwise come to know.
"Their matchmakers are spending a tremendous amount of time with each individual," Goldmann said.
He added that the J sites attract Jews from the nonobservant to the very observant, while his site is geared toward the Orthodox.
Australia was their proving ground, where "j-junction" has been operating since 2006 with 11 marriages to its credit. A site called "Saw You At Sinai," established in 2003, also combines matchmakers and a database.
But SYAS founder Marc Goldmann, who gave his computer model to the nonprofit J sites and has a financial stake in them, says there are a few crucial differences.
In fact, many people prefer be tough to meet the right person for you because there are so many dating sites to choose from.
Plus, there’s almost now way to know for sure who’s honestly looking to build a serious relationship and who’s just looking for short-term fun, even if they state otherwise in their profile.But the greater goal is what's known as "Jewish continuity." Among the world's estimated 14 million Jews, about half marry non-Jews -- an intermarriage rate many find dishearteningly high.To facilitate more Jewish-Jewish marriages, Bernath does not question the religiosity of JMontreal's 1,500 or so users. "It's to save an endangered species." Or, as Rabbi Mayshe Schwartz put it after launching JBoston just weeks ago: "We believe in Jews meeting Jews and having more Jews." The approach is working, say the J site organizers, who are mostly affiliated with the Orthodox Chabad movement.That's the job of the matchmaker -- a man or woman who takes you out for coffee, probes your heart, and then works with the J software to generate a list of potential soul mates."The matchmaker adds a human element to the digital element," said Rabbi Chaim Lipskar, who went online with JMiami two months ago and has signed up 150 people so far.Then there's 15-year-old JDate, perhaps the most well-known site for Jewish singles.