God designed the two to always be paired together, so knowing how much romance to engage in when the commitment is limited is tricky.
Dating by definition and design is somewhere in between friendship and marriage, therefore Christian guys and girls are always trying to navigate the confusion which is always produced by romance without commitment.
You should not share everything with your boyfriend or girlfriend because the highest levels of commitment are not yet there. You should share what you need to share to accomplish the goals of dating and no more.
One area to consider placing boundaries around is your emotions.
If you want to ride an emotional rollercoaster (not sure why you would), just start dating!
I reserved these words for my proposal with my wife.
I did that because I felt if I truly loved her, why would I wait to marry her? Love is you saying you are going to be there for the person no matter what. Therefore when I said, “I love you,” I wanted to mean it.
Therefore you should put boundaries around your expectations and hopes in your Christian dating relationship. I’m not saying you need to be hopeless or never have expectations. If you are closed off and don’t have hope, you are dooming the whole experience from the start. Sexual boundaries are what most people think of first because it’s probably the easiest temptation to fall into. Guard what you say if you want to guard your heart. Not everyone feels the same way about these three words as I do.
But I believe these words should not be spoken in a dating relationship.
But you also don’t want to get too emotionally entangled with someone you might not marry, thus you still need to guard your heart since dating is not a commitment for a lifetime like marriage.
So again, the whole experience of dating as a Christian is unavoidably precarious because you are constantly in danger of erring on the “too conservative side” or the “too liberal side.” Don’t ask me what conservative boundaries or liberal boundaries in Christian dating would look like. If you asked one Christian guy to make two lists, one describing conservative values in dating and another list describing liberal boundaries in dating, and then you asked another guy to do the same thing, I have no idea what they would each include.
You want to open up enough for the person to really get to know you.
You want to get the most out of the dating experience to see whether marriage is in the cards (which I believe is the healthiest goal of dating).
But on the flipside, the unfulfilled hope of a dating relationship turning into a breakup rather than a marriage can make a heart sick. In Christian Dating You Need Boundaries for Your Words and Promises This list of important dating boundaries for Christians could go on and on.