With my wife watching TV on the couch a mere 10 feet away, here I was talking dirty to a 36-year-old married woman (who's husband was probably watching TV on the couch a mere 10 feet away from her). I discovered that to satisfy their deep longing for passion with minimal risk, many women sign up for Ashley Madison to have virtual sex via chat. Most of these women seemed comfortable in getting what they needed online.
My hypothesis was simple: women who were looking for an extramarital affair with another married man were looking to connect in some way.
If both parties were married, they not only started on even ground, but they had something in common—they were missing something from their current relationship.
And given the demographical split on the site, I was prepared to be searching and waiting for a number of days for interest or responses.
To my surprise, Cameron's profile had 20 messages on his first night.
I needed to uncover the motivations behind starting and maintaining an affair. Numerous websites are dedicated to connecting those looking to engage in flagrante delicto sans spouse.
Married Cafe and Lonely Wives Affairs are but the tip of the iceberg, and all have women and men signing up in droves.
I hope I didn't disappoint them and that virtual cigarettes were ablaze in post-coital, pixelated afterglow of my cybersex adventures. If it was borderline anonymous (read: they didn't know much about me), it was akin to an interactive romance or erotic novel.
I recounted some of the more sexually explicit material these ladies had written, as well as what I wrote in response, and we both said aloud what we have known for a long time: When it comes to sex, women will get into the detail ... And with the inherent anonymity of chat, those inhibitions only grow exponentially.
but if commitment isn't there and loyalty becomes a matter of subjectivity or convenience, the marriage is already nonexistent.
Cheating then becomes a symptom of a secretly failed marriage.
I signed up for a second Ashley Madison account as a woman, "Shelly," and began checking out the guys' profiles. I hadn't even added a picture or completed the profile for that persona.