Truth is, even in marriage, you have to rein in your sexual desire and allow it to be fulfilled with your spouse in a loving consensual encounter.Part of dating and learning to bring your sexual desire under submission is simply training ground for marriage." Managing sexual desires begins with realizing that we can't do it on our own."The world teaches us that our sexual nature is the most powerful piece of us.
We must learn how to say "no" to our sexual desires even if it's unpopular and difficult. Jessica Mc Cleese of the Krist Samaritan Center in Houston, Texas.
She has studied Christian sex therapy for the last four years. Mc Cleese noted that much of our issue with managing desire is that we've made our desires too important.
Some couples are mindful of the words they say to each other or how they sit with each other (i.e., lying down or snuggling).
Set your boundaries, discuss them with one another and stick to them no matter what.
Yet, at the same time, I knew couples who did it right.
They met, fell in love, dated and waited until they were married to have sex.
There seemed to be a special connection between them that made me wonder, It started me on a quest to discover what I call "practical abstinence." All of the "true love waits" messages mean nothing if they can't be put into practice.
And that seems to be where many Christians fall short. You can't jump into dating and expect that sexual temptation won't be an issue.
"On a few occasions, we were together and I felt temptation, I would run out of the room, and once, I ran out of the apartment," he says.
Obviously, much of abstinence is about each person having self-control.
When I typed out these words as an idea for an article on abstinence, I realized this was a difficult topic to get people talking about.