You have a right to privacy, but at a certain point your date deserves honesty. Here are five tips I’ve figured out in the murky world of dating. Do Your Research If you do online dating, some sites, like OKCupid and Match.com, allow you to see someone’s views on different issues.Before you decide to meet, check out what they think about mental illness.This can happen at home, a park, or another quiet space.
Every week, I sit on my therapist’s couch to discuss life, and I’m open about this with many people. Up to 3% of Americans deal with dysthymia every year. Many are dating or looking for a romantic relationship.
But when looking for a serious romantic partner, those of us with a mental illness walk a tricky tightrope.
Giving yourself plenty of time to discuss this is also key.
It helps neither you nor your date to rush the conversation.
Disclosure is scary for me: Before I reveal all of this, I ensure my date is open in general to therapy and medication.
It’s easiest to find this out as a theoretical scenario — it can be as lighthearted as a joke on Tom Cruise’s crazy opinions about psychiatry.
More importantly, providing time gives your date space.
They can use it to think over what you’ve said and ask questions. For instance, if you choose to meet at a park, don’t rely on your date for transport.
But discussing your health from time to time builds trust and shows you’re working to maintain your mental health. Dating with mental illness comes with even more hurdles.