I look at her, all dolled up in heels and a cute crop top, and then I look back at my bed, soft and warm, offering a Saturday night of TV, calls with high-school friends, and microwavable macaroni and cheese.
Do I push myself to meet new people (and risk spending the next four hours smiling and saying “hey, where are you from?
Dating in college freshman year
” In college, you’re supposed to make mistakes because those mistakes become cool stories – the kind that build character and street cred.
But it’s hard to feel free to make bad decisions when you’ve got someone from home sending you a constant stream of text messages on Saturday night.
During their first trip home, freshmen have to decide whether they stick it out with their first love, or succumb to what is known as the “Turkey Drop”— the phenomenon of high-school couples breaking up when they come home for their first Thanksgiving.
Much of my own freshman year in college was determined by one recurring scene. She tells me her plans for the night – maybe a sorority party or a pregame in a friend’s room – and asks me if I want to come along.
Thanksgiving will also be a time for big questions, particularly for those freshmen still in high-school relationships.
Did they take advantage of their first three months in college, or did they lose out by spending too much time on Skype?
Almost everyone I interviewed said there was no way to casually be in a long-distance relationship in college.
If you were weren't together everyday on campus, then you had to make sacrifices, and you didn't make sacrifices if things weren't serious.
Many college freshmen are home this week for the first time since August.
They’ll retreat to what is comfortable – spending time with family, old friends, and for some, a high-school sweetheart.
It means long distance, long term.”By late November, you realize that the long-distance, marriage-proposal kind of commitment is fundamentally opposed to the ideals we’re taught to associate with college.