After all, I’m not getting any younger, and I don’t want to wait forever!
You’d think I would want someone I felt totally comfortable with, but here’s the thing. I think that is pretty natural, and it is positive when that feeling sticks around a little while.
While I know that kindness and generosity are imperatives to a lasting relationship, early on, I am also attracted to a little bit of mystery. If things go well, this translates to the nervous excitement about what potential is ahead. My girls regularly ask if I have been hanging out with any “friends” recently.
As I have met new women, I find myself attracted to the layers, to their own brokenness, to our common ground and the resilience that comes with life experience. I think I see an inspirational quote every minute on Instagram, specifically about overcoming our failures, learning from mistakes, and being a better person each day.
Not that it requires having been through a divorce … These mantras can get tiresome, but that doesn’t make them less true.
It still amazes me how quick I am to picture a woman around my daughters and wonder how she will be with them.
I think it is natural when you meet someone after divorce, particularly if you are a excited about them as a potential second chance, to envision that person in other parts of your life.
In our society, in 2015, it is far more popular to go negative and oppose something.
Pick a topic, and whatever it is, the loudest voices are speaking against it.
Still, I see this as an opportunity to set an example for them.
They are observant and smart and realize things are different at dad’s house.
Luckily, dating for me isn’t about meeting a woman who can mother my girls.