The next day, she invited me to attend a candlelight service at the same church.As I held my burning candle and sang "Silent Night," fresh grief of romantic regret unexpectedly filled my heart and tears filled my eyes.
In my past, at Point A of a potential relationship, (he had called me once and we scheduled to meet for the first time for coffee), in my mind I was already at Point Z (I'd met his mother, birthed his babies and started folding his underwear).
And in 3.5 seconds flat, I discovered numerous reasons why the relationship wouldn't work. What if we don't get along because I'm right-brained and he's left?
In Scripture, Paul describes my response as a "vain imagination" (2 Corinthians 10:5).
The word vain means "empty," because these thoughts are not based in truth.
Unfortunately, not everyone comes to grips with their past.
Like the woman in the film, we can experience regret because we feel we missed an opportunity with someone special, or because we dated someone for the wrong reasons, communicated poorly, were unfaithful to our mate or a host of other reasons.
I prayed and prayed and prayed if I should break up with him. God doesn't ignore those He loves when they ask for help.
These thoughts led me to my Bible where I studied about His sovereignty and control over all things.
What if he doesn't like the way I do laundry or what if thinks I need to earn more money?