Understand this about men: they will usually do the least that they can to maintain their relationship. But here’s the real problem: there are women everywhere who are complete suckers for this crap.
So if he can text you at 11pm on Friday night after a week of silence and charm you with something like: “UR 2 hott! Maybe it’s a low self esteem thing, but as long as some desperate girl lets him get away with it, he’ll always have a low-maintenance sexual outlet.
Furthermore, if you’re not finding his consistently lame-o responses of “k” satisfying, or he habitually takes the “Make Her Suffer” response-time rule to the limits, the guy just might not be right for you.
If five minutes on the phone is too much work for him, it speaks for itself.
As to how you redirect a lazy man to give you more effort, the trick is to do it with wit and charm.
How are you supposed to progress the relationship if you never “touch-base” by actually speaking to one another? Or, am I just old fashioned (39) and not used to this new aspect of dating? Telling someone where you’re located in a crowded theater or bar. There’s no context, tone, voice, or facial expressions to modify your message. You’re encouraged to misspell, you’re discouraged from saying anything deep or meaningful.
Writing flirty or dirty notes to be provocative and naughty. The next thing you know, you’re having a vicious argument that could have been easily avoided in person. Essentially, texting is emailing for the lazy, illiterate and mobile.
You send a text when you don’t want to talk to someone, but you want to let them know you’re thinking of them.
And what can be more flattering than conveying, electronically, the idea that you DON’T want to talk to the woman you’re courting?
The best online dating sites have survived the test of time, and many of us are guilty of a Sunday night swipe session when The Fear still hasn’t passed and Monday Dread kicks in.
But instead of the traditional drinks-and-a-movie hook up, more and more of us are downloading apps that promise no strings sex (which could lead to astral sex…) Interested?
Therefore, he’ll never feel the need to do all the heavy lifting of relationships such as “calling” and “dates”….