“IF you’re going to look for a husband, go to America or Europe.” Those words were from a well-travelled Asian who I met at a speed-dating event one night.
Upon hearing them, I felt like this bleak cynicism about the Australian dating scene pierced open a sleeping concern.
“Some people respond to this by sticking with their own communities which result in the Asian corners in clubs or group stereotypes,” Min says.
“They are essentially creating safe spaces where they don’t feel awkward.” I also ask about “rice queens”, non-Asian men who specifically pursue Asian men.
" For all the non Aussies reading this, did anyone understand that? He wore his thongs to climb to the Great Wall of China, on the beaches of Indonesia, motorbiking and even to sporting matches.
2 hours and an attempt to read Chinese mapquest later, no satisfaction. Apparently they don't have time to speak in full worded sentences "Meet me for a bevi this arvo? He wears thongs He wears thongs confidently and doesn't care who's watching!
However, Min highlights that “the problem with stereotypes is not that they’re not true. I feel like this pearl of wisdom held a lot of validity and truth behind it.
What were the incomplete perceptions of gay Asians that were floating around, and how did other gay guys negotiate their world?
The American boys love to play games with girls, and the whole grinding thing? The flirting/hooking up game was so different in Australia! Americans drink to get drunk and go out, Aussies love a beer with almost anything and drink because they mostly enjoy the taste (they just get hammered in process of enjoying all this grog! Also, the whole "Live to work - Work to live" mentality is so noticeably different between the two cultures. The Aussie comes in, sees the spider and says "that's it? If you don't know footy well, just support the same team he does Aussie boys are incredibly loyal to their footy team. I hear choosing footy teams can make or break a relationship.
Anyways, let's be real, my man does follow the Aussie stereotypes -- Blonde hair, surfer, beach bum, makes a mean BBQ, loves a good beer, and rides a kangaroo to work! " Everyone knows that Australia has some wild and terrifying creatures that are ultimately out to kill you, so the tiny and unintimidating insects here are nothing to the Aussie kind.
Min affirms these experiences are definitely linked to racism.