We have big projects in the Middle East, I’d like to start up some plants. I’m in catalytic reforming, we make gasoline, in the refinery. B: I was in Chicago last year and it was a lot of fun, yeah it’s a good place. I went for a couple weeks in high school actually, we had a track and field…ah…trip, so that was pretty cool. I suggest we meet up next week, a suggestion which she says she is quite interested in. B: Well more I want to go live in a different country, see what it’s like. B: Optimizing catalyst, making sure the plant is running, etc. I’ve got some vacation saved up so I’m going to burn it all, I’ve got about 6 weeks. G: Some key places to visit, New York, some other stuff. She really doesn’t give the opportunity for a hug though, which is not a great sign, but I let it slide and that is that.Well, I like trying new things, and this is certainly new. I talk to my buddy Cory, and we decide we’ll hit up a “Travel Lovers” Speed Dating event, offered by Fastlife. As I work on setting something up for the following week, she tells me that she is struggling with some issues and isn’t bringing her best self forward at this time, so she can’t continue at that point.
We chat about our game plan, which involves some discussions of what kind of questions to ask and what to talk about. B: I got all this vacation saved up from last year. B: I’m an engineer, I work for , I grew up in BC but there’s a lot more jobs here. It’s busier than I expected, I thought it would be a smaller kind of thing. We have a bunch of stuff in the Middle East and it would be cool to work there and live there. B: Well I’ve been to Europe and Australia, which were both pretty cool, but I think I’m going to have to go with Tofino. There’s a lot of interesting places in the States to visit, people don’t think about it a lot. I have only gone out with her once, so what the hell am I thinking here??
We also discuss a plan of using “voice memo” on our phones to record the conversations we have, so we can review them later. *ding ding* Girl #2 B: Hi I’m Bryan, how’s your night going? The beaches, the surfing, the West Coast Rainforests. I’m going to do a Scandinavian tour in the summer, I’ve been meaning to do that for awhile. So I am way too nice, and I think it actually comes across as a bit weird. Probably something like this: “I am sorry to hear you are having issues.
…now you are probably thinking then why don’t you want to continue dating me? Once i have decided to call her, I sit there with my phone in front of me, thinking about what to say. I don’t know if I have mentioned this before, but I suffer from something I like to call “phone anxiety.” I absolutely hate calling strangers on the phone, and sometimes it takes considerable will-power for me to overcome this.
Bryan you are a sweetie and I think that you are a great guy! I could be wrong, but I think we are at different places in life. I decide that since I have never talked to her before, I had better use the richer communication channel of talking on the phone, rather than going with my default plan of texting.
I like the dry and sunny cold over the wet and dreary. I am most interested in areas I can improve on, so basically what I did poorly, or things that you did not like about the dates. I am old fashioned and I truly appreciated you paying for our dates. Even though we may be independent and can take of ourselves, we still like being taken care of. I also liked that you took charge and thought about what we could do on our dates. I was actually wanting to set you up with a girl I know…assuming that is ok with you. At the end of the day I have only positive things to say about her, and I really hope she finds the guy that she is looking for!
I am just hoping you can give me some feedback on anything about the speed-dating event, the email I sent you, and the couple of dates we had that jumped out at you. If you feel comfortable and are liking a girl maybe just flirt a little more. Also it’s good to know that my plan of paying for things and being assertive/taking charge of planning dates works well. And to top it all off, she sets me up with her friend Lacy. We send a few emails back and forth over the next few months, but gradually we fall out of touch.Next thing you know, it’s time to roll, so we head down to Red Square. Petersburg, Helsinki, Stockholm, Oslo, Trondheim, Iceland. I don’t know about this whole 4 minute thing, it’s way too fast, I don’t know. G: Do you have family out here, or are they back in BC? It also definitely comes across as needy, so really if I did have any remaining chance with her, I have now totally bombed it. Hopefully you sort them out, and if you do and want to meet up again then send me a text. ” Definitely nothing more than that, and perhaps something less.Both of us are going with the nice jeans/button-up shirt plan. B: I have a cousin that moved out here, but most of my family is back in BC. I had only met her once, really what did I expect, for her to say “Oh ok actually let’s meet up again so I can discuss all of my issues with you, someone I’ve only met once”? B: No, I thought it would be smaller and more low-key. I get busy with work and don’t meet that many people, there’s only so much you can do about meeting a girl at a bar. B: I work for B: Yeah, well the thing I like about it is that it’s global. I bring along a thermos with hot chocolate, and we end up sitting on a bench overlooking the river and drinking hot chocolate as the sun set on the horizon. Overall the conversation is quite enjoyable, and she seems like a really cool girl. B: Oh that’s a good question, one of my buddies suggested it, and I kind of scoffed at him and then I thought, why not? It’s a nice path that I scoped out the previous week while going for a run.The setup is girls sitting at tables, and guys rotating from girl to girl when the bell rings. To recap on my first speed dating experience, I ended up getting dates with 3 different girls out of it, with two of the girls being ones I would potentially have continued dating if they were interested.