Asking a second and third time will only make you look desperate and annoying. “Communicate what you are looking for,” says Toyooka.
“Communication is really the lube of having great sex.”DON’T: Wait to tell her you’re not looking for anything serious until after you get it on.
If these scenarios sound eerily familiar, that’s because the world of casual, no-strings-attached sex can be a slippery slope to navigate—and chances are, you’re doing it all wrong. “Give yourself permission to engage in having a one-night stand,” advises human sexuality expert Catherine Toyooka, the founder of Catherine Coaches sex workshops. If you forget, (discreetly) stop and pick one up before you head home. Halting foreplay for a couple of minutes to grab a rubber is a way better scenario than dealing with an STI or unplanned pregnancy later on.
’ while engaging in vigorous intercourse if this was not agreed to beforehand,” she says.
DO: Before you go home with someone while drinking, assess whether she seems sober enough to be making a clear, rational decision.
DON’T: Make up a lame excuse about why she has to leave.
“I totally forgot I have breakfast with my mom at 10 a.m.” is not only a crock of shit, but also, extremely rude.
Have you ever taken a lady home expecting to “hump and dump,” but she wanted to start dating after?
Or worse..lingered all morning and refused to leave? DON’T: Get too caught up in the moment to use a condom.
If you feel like she’s had too much to drink, set her up on your couch with water and Advil. [pagebreak] DO: If you’re not looking for anything serious, just say so.
It’s respectful to her, and feel better about yourself in the morning too DON’T: This goes without saying, but don’t try and persuade her to have sex with you if she says no. It’s much better to be upfront about what you want so she’s not confused, and it’ll save you looking like an ass later.
“One night stands can be great for sexual experimentation as long as everyone is on the same page of what is going to happen.”DON’T: Do anything freaky if it wasn’t discussed ahead of time.
“For instance, don’t tell someone that you want them to call out ‘Fuck me daddy!
One-night stands can be mind-blowing or regret-inducing, and you never really know which it's going to be. I'm very into one-partner sexual relationships, so every time I saw her on campus, I felt like like I was staring directly at my mistakes.